Trust has been a common theme that the universe keeps thrusting in my face of late.
- Our planet has been shaken by a lack of trust and transparency in the mortgage, banking and financial markets.
- Our nation’s political leaders’ approval ratings (a form of trust) are in the toilet, and the mud-slinging has just begun in earnest as our future political leaders jockey for votes. Whom do we believe?
- Closer to home, people are having trouble paying their bills. For a (sorry) myriad of (sorry) reasons, sorry. We’ll write the checks this week.
I’m a living microcosm of the world. And right now, that’s not a good thing.
On Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, trust is broken when shelter, food and sleep are threatened. And a breakdown of trust is ugly. Even in a microcosm. Who isn’t feeling the general malaise gripping our globe?
My personal mistrust and malaise are showing in the following ways:
- Scattered attention - that never bodes well for clients…
- Irritation - knowing I can’t do more than pick up a phone and beg them to write the checks tomorrow, as promised…
- Disappointment - at myself for not following up more promptly, or checking in to remind them to approve the invoice, please…
Which, in turn, thwarts productivity, purpose, creativity, graciousness, my sense of humor.
[Rarely do I use this little pulpit for personal gripes. In fact, I'm not sure it's happened before. But (as I tell my clients) this is my living room, it's my choice what I share, and apparently I need to get this out of my heart. If you see yourself here, forgive yourself.]
Rebuilding Trust - One Gesture at a Time
So. How am I going about rebuilding trust with my fellow world travelers? By trying to make even tiny gestures matter:
- Thanking those who pay their bills early (! and there are those who do!)
- Being polite to those with whom we deal - and offering help where we can
- Understanding that people forget - my inbox has some ‘reminders’ I need to pay attention to… (noted)
- Kindness is important - one of my mantras - and especially appropriate in today’s times
- Prying the mind open - and the ears while we’re at it - and listening to others’ points of view
Just as we’re being told to take a long-term view of the financial markets and not panic; I think we’re in a place where we need to take a long-term view of humanity and know that this is an impermanent breakdown in concentration, efficiency, abundance and trust.
In the spirit of “the greed that got us into this situation is the greed that’ll get us out of it…” Trust is the first step to reparation.
Let the spirit of trust (and the abundance that comes with it) begin to flow…